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In this self-help guide, the supernatural blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can really become better, happier people.

For decades, weâ € ™ 've been told that positive thinking is the key to a rich happy life. "F ** k pertivity," says Mark Manson. "Let's be honest, shit is like a CK ** and we have to live with it." In a widely popular Internet blog, Manson DoSn ™ t Skirkwat or Balancing. He says it's like "a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is largely lacking today." The hidden art of not giving F ** k is his antidote to Kudling, let's all feel - a good mentality that has afflicted American society and corrupted generation, They have only golden medals to appear.

Manson makes the argument, backed by both academic research and tube jokes good seizures, that improving our lives depends not on our ability to turn lemon into lemon juice, but on learning to stomach better lemon. Humans are flawed and limited " Everyone cannot be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in the community, some are unfair or wrong. "Manson advises us to recognize and accept our limits and once we embrace our fears, mistakes, and uncertainties once we stop running and avoid Facing the painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

There are just so many things you can give f ** k about that we need to know which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring for what you do with your life is the best, because real wealth is about the experience. The moment you grab your shoulders and look at you in the eye of the real much-needed talk, full of amusing and vulgar stories, ruthless humor, and the subtle art of not giving F * * k is a refreshing slap for Gil to help them lead a life grounded.

The subtle art of not giving F * ck - A book review

There is nothing hidden about Mark Manson. It's rough, vulgar and does not give f *ck.

But like anything of real value in life, digging a little deeper, you will find the treasure worthy of an explorer willing to look under the surface.

I recently conducted an interview with Mark about his new book, The Hidden Art of Not Giving F * Sec: An Inalienable Approach to Living a Good Life, and found that the man behind the obscene words is actually incredibly inspirational, deeply philosophical, and very intelligent.

So it is actually clever that he brilliantly masculine writing using language as a way to trick the reader into reading a book about values.

In essence, the subtle art of not giving F * sc is a book about finding what is really important to you and getting out of everything else. In the same way that encourages the reduction of exposure to reckless distractions such as social media and television technology, he encourages reducing anxiety on things that have little meaning or value in your life.

In an interview with us, Mark said: "If you see things online or hear things your colleagues say really affect you so much then you need to look at the values in your life.If your feelings are being pushed down this way or that way and you feel you never control, Maybe because you appreciate a lot of wrong things. "

More than a practical guide to choosing what is important in our lives and what is unimportant, it verbally and realistically checks the need for it actually around our personal problems, fears and expectations. It's a bold face of self, our painful facts, mistakes, and doubts, without all the positive airy-fairy fluff we were feeding a spoon to believe by self-help teachers.

think positively?

"Busty positive," says Manson. "Let's be honest, sometimes things are fucked, and we have to live with it."

Be unusual?

"No one can be extraordinary - there are winners and losers in society, and some of them are not fair or wrong," says Manson.

Seeking happiness?

"The road to happiness is a whole path of piles of shit and shame," he says.

By far, my favorite quote in the book.

I am a happy student.

Book read Mark, I laughed until I caught and cried until I mocked. He is as truthful as painful as he is outrageously funny. I find honesty to be refreshing and fulfilling. When every other self-help book injects you with cheap, feel good and good that lasts as long as your nose is still buried in the book and serves no practical purpose in the mud and generous of your daily life, Marc Yanke's book for you of illusion and denial, Point in the hole you're stuck in and force you to look not only at the filth and dirt that covers you but also to accept it.

This, he says, is the true source of empowerment. "Once we embrace our fears, our shortcomings, and uncertainty - when we stop running and avoid, and start to face the painful realities - we can begin to find the courage and confidence we seek desperately."

Instead of pursuing an idealized, unattainable, problem-free life, a good life, Mark suggests asking the basic question, "What problem do you want to be?"

If it is true what he writes, "Life is basically an endless series of problems.The solution to one problem is just another creation," then it makes sense when life tells me that sucks for those who are constantly trying to get away from problems. Instead of asking "how can I get rid of my problems?" The question becomes "What are the problems that raise me? What are the problems that I am willing to sacrifice in order to work for?"

"High altitude is based on people rather than legitimate problem solving," calls the modern self-help market "fried potatoes and soda version of personal growth." "It is really good and easy to consume ... but there is a painful and difficult struggle by nature as part of growth, and if you do not want to hit people on your face with it, most people just will avoid it ... they're just going to keep Find more things feel good to distract themselves with. "

As any fast food restaurant can tell you, there is a lot of money to be made in french fries and soda. And with the self-improvement industry netting $ 11 billion per year in the United States alone, it's no wonder that the market is saturated with a tilted filly everything is awesome fried potatoes. You can practically lick the hope of your fingers along with the salt.

Manson, on the other hand, offers no hope in his book. At least, not on the surface. "This book does not give a damn about easing your problems or your pain," he writes. "This book is not a sign of greatness - it cannot be because greatness is just an illusion in our minds, the destination of our making that we commit ourselves to follow, our mental Atlantis."

The irony is that the book is actually about greatness. It is hoped. There is a greatness to discover in accepting our lack of greatness, simplicity, and beauty amid the ugly complex. In embracing our problems along with the dirt, slime, and irony that accompany life and humanity, we come to live a good life and we are always eager to.

The hidden art of not giving F * SK: The approach of limiting living a good life is a deeply inspiring book about values and cleverly disguised purpose in the crude vulgar of four characters and negative and horrific death.

There is no unicorn award-winning puffy cloud offering hugs on a colorful rainbow, only F-bomb bombardments are a brutal slap you're actually dealing with.

But by the time you finish reading it, you'll find yourself prick with promise. The world suddenly looks brighter and lighter. You will feel free, strange, good, although the sandwiches served shit throughout the book. This kind of French fry will not be the good thing that makes your body crave true nutrition, but this kind of well-cooked home is good to keep you from the depths as if you've just served a hearty dish of whole, raw, organic, uncontested truth.