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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Book by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver is a book that exposes what he describes as seven principles that can lead to a harmonious and lasting relationship. The book attempts to discredit a series of what it describes as myths about marriages and why they fail. The seven principles that Gottman establishes are that partners improve their love maps; cultivate love and admiration; turn towards each other instead of moving away; let your partner influence them; solve your solvable problems; Overcome the bottleneck and create shared meaning. The book was included in the Comprehensive Soldier Fitness program. A continuation of this book was 2013 What Makes Love Last?

Book Summary
John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

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Book Review
I think that couples looking for ways to change destructive patterns will find a useful tool in this book. The remainder of focusing on positive feelings, which form the basis of a relationship, and examining our own behaviors within relationships suggest personal responsibility. The authors encourage us to spend time with partners. This book is a call to act with honor and respect within relationships.

About The Author
John Mordecai Gottman is an American psychological researcher and clinician who did extensive work over four decades on divorce prediction and marital stability. He is also an award-winning speaker, author, and professor emeritus in psychology.


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